It all started back in 1995…
At 25, I was an accomplished French Horn player, a very good programmer, a math wiz, a virgin, and overall a very clever guy who felt completely stumped by one question. “Why am I liked by women whom I don’t like, and disliked by those that I do like?”
I was used to being able to solve every problem, and yet, this one seemed without a solution. As much as I asked around, nobody had an answer, yet deep in my heart I knew that this age-old problem could be solved. I had no guidance at the time. Women who knew wouldn’t tell me, men who didn’t simply ignored me, and I didn’t even know whom to ask. So, I did what I do best. I started to research.
As always, a journey of a thousand miles starts with one step. And, just so happens that my first step on this journey of discovery was a little pamphlet “How to get women you desire into bed”. Lovely, I know, but at the time, that was all there was. Still, something is better than nothing, and I began learning. (The biggest thing about that little book was the premise that if it’s OK for women to change the dating rules however they see fit, it’s OK for men to do the same!)
Over the years, I progressed in very very small steps. It was not until some 12 or so years later that I realized that my understanding of women had grown. Yet, I was still unable to recognize why some women liked me and others didn’t. I dove into teaching, and there I had my first break-through. As we wandered the streets of Hollywood at another “get laid” bootcamp, guys kept asking me “Why is it I’m doing exactly the same thing as the next guy, yet he’s successful with the ladies, and I’m not?”
Slowly, over time, it dawned on me that no matter how smooth you talk, or how well you dress, it really all depends on whether a woman likes you or not. Armed with that understanding, I proceeded to examine more and more interactions, only to come up on another discovery “People have no clue what they’re looking for”. At first, it was easy because I only focused on men. But, the more interactions I examined, the clearer it became that men were not the only ones who were clueless.
Women had no idea what they were looking for, either!
And, I’m not talking about academics with zero social skills, no.
Successful, stylish women. Women who touted an accomplished dating life and perhaps even a marriage in their past. They were just as clueless as an acne-d teenager.
I remember when a former client told me: “Al, I just realized, I was never in love with my ‘ex’ [husband]”
To her, that was an amazing self-revelation. To me, that was progress!
Slowly, I began to piece all of my teachings together. The concept “it is easier than you think” joined the directive “Take Advantage Of Interaction [T.A.O.] “. I learned how to teach in such a way that was clear to everyone. I understood that the only way to give advice is to offer a personalized custom-tailored advice. After all, you wouldn’t take a generic financial advice, or a medical advice that begins with “Well, this is what works for most people”
I grouped my teachings and came up with a system that everyone could follow. I created the deal-breakers without which you were not allowed to learn the program. I learned and I taught.
And, I’m still learning…
I’m confident to say that I am better than anyone else in the romantic advice arena, yet I’m humble enough to know that I’m only getting better, and there’s still so much more to know.
And now, I invite you to experience this breakthrough program for yourself.
In the culinary world, a cook is only that, a cook, but a chef, he (or she) is a creator. He is the person who utilizes individual ingredients to create an incomparable meal.
I am a relationship chef. I create relationships. I use unique ingredients that you’ve had all along to help you create the most amazing, incomparable relationship you’ve never even dreamed of.
If you are already in a troubled relationship, just like a bad dish, it’s easier to scrap it and start from scratch than to try to repair it. Besides, there are too many things to fix in an existing relationship; you, the other person, and the relationship itself.
When you’re starting anew, there’s nothing to taint the purity of your desires, the beauty of your qualities. Have a vision, use your ingredients you’ve had all along, and believe that creating a life-changing relationship is like cooking a perfect meal; as long as you trust that you’ll do it right, it will be perfect!